Extispex: Tarot and Tarot Readings

Paul asks: I am in love with a guy (we are both American) who, two years ago, moved to Eastern Europe. He was only meant to be gone a few months, and told me when he got back, we would live together. He is still gone. We keep in contact, and he says he loves me but isn’t ready to come back yet. Is he going to come back to me, and what is in our future?

Che’s answer: You’re kidding right? You’ve been waiting two years for this guy? I get the feeling I don’t need astrology or tarot to read this one, but here goes:

His horoscope is all fire and air, energy and intellect, motion and mind. Yours is all water and earth (read: mud). He likes his freedom, and that isn’t going to change anytime soon. You, with a sun/moon/venus grand trine all in water signs, identify strongly with your relationships. You need relationships to feel like you are someone, and you tend to fall in love with anyone who is nice to you.

I’m assuming this guy was nice to you. He has a lot of friendly Aquarian/Leonine energy in his chart. He’s gregarious, generous, fun, and very charming. But with a venus/mercury conjunction in Gemini on the 7th/8th house cusp, he’s not only bisexual, but also a bit of a tart. He has likely had a few affairs since being in Europe. He’s also partying like a madman.

You’re bisexual too, but for different reasons than he. You are bisexual out of need. You need to be loved and it doesn’t matter whats dangling off the front of your lover’s body, as long as you can pretend they love you.

From your cards, it looks like you were not long ago in a relationship with a woman (Q of Swords) who ripped out your entrails and used them to decorate her christmas tree. You blame her for everything wrong in your life, but in truth it was your intense emotional need that drove her away, and until you get this neediness under control, you will continue to drive away potential lovers.

Your boyfriend isn’t going to come back anytime soon. There are feelings still alive in this relationship, on both sides, but you are going to have to make a choice (the Lovers). To be with him, you are going to have to go to Europe (six of swords), but you aren’t going to do that. You are mired (7 of Cups) where you are. And even if you do manage to get yourself unstuck, you are going to have to make a lot of compromises that will eventually come to oppress and depress you.

You’re nearly twenty years older than he is. Will you be able to keep up with his air/fire energy? You like to wear a youthful Gemini face, but in truth, you’re more of a Cancerian homebody. He definitely isn’t.

You want closeness, intimacy, and romance in the sack. He wants excitement. Its unlikely he’s going to calm down until his Uranus opposition, which should be around 15 years or so from now. I know you’ve waited two years - are you willing to wait 15?

I would suggest letting this one go, getting some therapy, learning not to rely on the love of others to validate your existence. You’ve got a lot of good qualities - you’re sensitive, intelligent, with a creative and industrious nature. I bet you’re an awsome cook, and an even better homemaker and craftsman. You’re the kind of person who can build his own house, and then proceed to make it a home. You’d also make an excellent parent, with your friendly demeanour and your drive to care for others. There’s a lot in you to like, but if you don’t see it, how in the hell is anyone else going to see it?

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